Memories are what make us. They are the building blocks that form our consciousness and character. In the University, memories journey with us as we tread through the wilderness and the milk and honey of learning. Like the night follows the day, you no fit escape am. Either good or bad, you definitely would make memories with people around.
As a student, who you live with in school could make you have wonderful or disappointing memories. With house rents fighting through to the top, having a roommate helps save cost, unless you be Dangote’s son or daughter, you go like cut cost. On the flipside, in the quest of cutting cost, you will be exposed to a number of Adams’ offspring who see things in different shades of lenses; this brings us to the downsides of having a roommate: you do not always have a say on what dominates your space; you sometimes abide by your roommate’s attitude even when it is in direct opposite to your own character. You no get choice.
The following are some of the effective ways to live peacefully with your roommate as your relationship goes from top to bottom(in Buhari’s voice):
Do some introspection and think about why you despise them.
Your hatred towards them is but for a reason. You would like to discover this reason and spend some time analyzing it. Is it based on some unverified facts or just assumptions? Look at the issue from your roommate’s viewpoint. You may not always be right. Your opinions may not always be correct.
Speak to them.
“A lot of problems in the world would be solved if we talked to each other instead of about each other.”Nickey Gumbel.
Instead of behaving like parallel lines in same confinement, it is beneficial to have a heart-to-heart talk with your roommate and be aware of the why of their behavior. Why they have decided to be chameleon of character or perhaps it was just a mere misunderstanding. You are definitely not a god at reading minds. This may yield some positive outcomes.
Learn to like them.
To ensure a long and healthy span if you have few years to spend together as roommates, it is important to learn to like them. No matter how horrible you believe some people are, they all have at least a few redeeming qualities or characteristics. When you strive to see the positive aspects of someone, you might sometimes start to like or at least appreciate who they are as a person.
Avoid each other.
While this is not a recommended method (since it never addresses the issues at hand), many individuals use it. You can simply avoid your roommate if you no longer like them. This might be accomplished by simply not spending as much time at home when your roommate is around, or by simply remaining in your own private space when they are present. While many individuals utilize this strategy, we recommend that you try one of the others first because simply ignoring a problem or your roommate will never solve or fix anything.
Check and work on yourself.
Take a quick and intentional walk into the realm of your character to affirm if your roommate’s character is a retaliation of what you have always done to him/her. Unclear to you is the fact that your roommate might have just decided to inject your with your own very dose of character.